Love is to the Bible as the inner product is to math. That is after studying many years all the things come together into one simple concept. Christ formed a new covenant, that being to truly love your fellow man. In doing so you fulfill the law. So think of the person you love the most, whether that be a family member, yourself, or other, and examine every action you take as if you were talking to them as the subject of the statement. Is it how you would wish to be treated? How do you think they will take it?
Love is open, understanding, accepting, unconditional, and freeing.
Love is not secretive, judging, rejecting, or controlling.
Fear is the opposite of Love. You cannot love and fear someone at the same time. If you love someone your fear is driven out by love, and vice-versa. This is in part why woman stay with men who abuse them. And in part the sense of fear of the uncertainty of living without a man. Fear is a useful human response, designed to protect the person by preparing the body for fight or flight. But the misuse can be harmful.
Fear of terrorism has made us allow our government to spend $1.4 trillion on the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. That equates to $467 million per death on 9/11. Why/? The fear of "terror" that was branded on 9/11 as we watched the towers burn and collapse. We responded with an Epic over reaction, based on fear that is stoked daily by the media. Wake up America.
Fear of another person's reaction to discussion often prevents open communication in a relationship.
The missed expectations often create bias and resentment, due to lack of open communications.
Fear of being alone causes people to stay in broken relationships.
Fear of losing has been known to drive all sorts of extreme behavior in divorce and war.
But fear can be overcome with love, but even less is truly required. Simply understanding can offset the fear. So to communicate openly about potential concerns early is key. But this requires courage to overcome the fear of being rejected. Basically this all boils down to things that are positive and negative. We constantly add things to our leaky memory bucket. If we add more negative than positive we become negative. If we fail to communicate wee are likely going to be filling our bucket with things like missed expectations.
By filling your bucket daily with positive loving things, you become more positive and closer to Christ. The bucket is your soul, the items you put in are your deeds and thoughts.
So in your daily life you must exercise courage to prevent fear from stopping you from being open and truly communicating.
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